Thursday 26 February 2009

Notes on Swimming !!



I always wanted to learn swimming (apparently its compulsory in schools in many countries). One reason was the cool elegance of women when they wear swim suits. I assumed that it was swim suits which was the source of this elegance and not women wearing it. I made enquiries at the government swimming pool. An hour of swimming classes/swimming time just costs Rs.10! I felt that it would be criminal not to learn swimming when our government is being so generous! May be one of the last bastions of sircari generosity. Just before entering the pool I had to go through a security post at the entrance. I asked the security man whether they have women trainers here. He said there is one but it is not necessary that she will teach me. But I could ask her anyway, he said. Strange man, I thought.
There were two trainers standing beside the swimming pool. A man and a woman. I met the woman trainer who told me that I could buy swim suits from Parthas ( a popular textile shop). Also if I wanted to cover more (She pointed at the women who were in the pool who were not showing not even a drop of skin!), I could buy innerwear from a sports goods shop near Statue Junction.
So off I go to buy swimsuit in the evening with my sis in law. I bought a swim suit. I tried the swim suit on at the shop. I didn’t feel elegant at all when I looked at the mirrors which surrounded me in the trial room. Oh shit! I thought. I am top heavy. My legs do not suit the suit. They need to be more … what.. elegant. So basically, I went and bought the inners and tights as well. No skin showing for me, please. Kerala is bad. Men are bad. So I won’t show my body. I rationalized to myself. When I reached home, my mother commented that you could have bought a burqua instead of so many pieces of clothing. That would have solved the problem!
Morning 9.45. 9.45-10.45 is ladies’ time. I wear my swimsuits…in the dressing room of the pool. A woman who must be in her sixties wearing knickers and a loose blouse showed me where to change and also asked me to wet my body before I get in the pool. I felt ashamed of my layers of clothing. But she is old. I told myself. I went to the pool. There was a man with a long pole in his hand. He asked me to get in the pool. The woman trainer never turned up. He asked me to take a deep breath and breath out into the pool. I did it a few times. There was a girl and a woman who were trying to paddle. I seem to have impressed the trainer with my breathing out. He said that I could begin to try to be in the water. So I leaned on the poolwall and threw myself into the water and tried breathing out into the water by immersing my whole body. After a few times my mates marveled at my ability to trust water. They commented that I am a natural. One of them was water phobic. She was yet to breath into the water like I was doing even after a month of training. I felt good after a long time about myself. Man..I am so brave.
Later I discovered that the pole in the hand of the trainer is to poke my body parts when he wants me to immerse my head or if he wants to point out that my body is going stiff which he says is sure to sink one. That is, if any part of one’s body goes tense or stiff, that will bring one down and will not help one to float.

Tuesday 24 February 2009

Teacher of knowledge and wisdom

My only memory of her is a yellow frock I used to wear to my kindergarten (henceforth nursery since that's how we used to call them in Kerala). I used to love it because she loved it. She was my first teacher. I guess she must have taught me rhymes, numbers and may be alphabets. My mother remembers that on my first day in nursery, I was so happy and liked her so much that I asked my parents to leave amid wails of children being ripped away from their mothers. After some months she left teaching to join her husband in the Gulf. I was heartbroken and wore the yellow frock to bid her farewell. Nursery was never the same and I stopped attending after a while.
New nurseries happened. I bid farewell innumerable times. Life moved. Usual and unusual things hardened heart and skin. I judged myself and others. I created and contributed to happiness and misery. I interpreted and analysed myself and others. I became convinced that “the other is misery”.
I have never understood any parting or meeting. Parting was relief, tears or numbness. Meeting was joy, dread or love. Are these beyond these emotions and feelings? I was going through many partings and failed to understand why they happened or what I truly felt. I had bowed down to God in my sorrow (not in belief). I trembled in my sadness and a curtain of tears fell over my eyes. I prayed because I was sad.
I met my teacher again. She recognized me, I did not. Amid all partings, I met someone whom I thought I had lost. This time she taught me the importance of being kind and respectful to oneself. She taught me to see and accept reality as it is. She taught me the importance of living and accepting the present. Not to worry too much about one’s own wickedness and virtuousness. She taught me the difference between knowledge and wisdom.
So where do partings and meetings happen? What do they mean? Each parting is a meeting and each meeting a parting? Something like that….

Worship


I cannot exist
Without you by my side.
The city has left me lonely in its high way,
I do not know my way back home or that to yours.
Answer me,
Whisper in my ear your sweet name which I have forgotten.
Write your curses on my body
But do not ignore me and leave me.
Be my shield and my sword.
(After reading Psalms: 143 and 144)