This post is dedicated to understanding the difference between boredom and loneliness.
Boredom is when you feel that you have pursued an action or an emotion or a person enough and you do not know which is the action, emotion or person to be pursued next. Both these feelings have to be there i.e an enough and a more. I know this kid who said when she was three that she feels bored. She said it in malayalam. boradikkunnu. which translates literally into boredom is beating . So her father asked: where is it beating, darling? She said that it is in her stomach. That is true boredom, I guess. Anything you feel in your stomach is your truth. The problem is that we are mostly not even capable of truly bored. It is not a stomach boredom. You could also say that boredom can never be true because it is just not discontentment: it is discontentment plus a want.
Now, what is the nature of loneliness? Loneliness is when you feel that you are not enough. You need someone other than yourself. As you know, you could feel loneliness even when you are with someone. But basically you feel that you are not enough. You want the other to fill up your self. Is there true loneliness , a stomach loneliness?
So, boredom and loneliness are different. There will be some who would say that you are lonely when you are bored with yourself. I would beg to disagree. There is a "not enough" part in loneliness. You are not enough. And you need someone. Boredom is when you have had enough of something and you need more of something else. As you can see, this is not too subtle or anything.
So, how was your day? Were you bored or lonely today or are you a fool who thinks that you are living to make other people happy?
Boredom is when you feel that you have pursued an action or an emotion or a person enough and you do not know which is the action, emotion or person to be pursued next. Both these feelings have to be there i.e an enough and a more. I know this kid who said when she was three that she feels bored. She said it in malayalam. boradikkunnu. which translates literally into boredom is beating . So her father asked: where is it beating, darling? She said that it is in her stomach. That is true boredom, I guess. Anything you feel in your stomach is your truth. The problem is that we are mostly not even capable of truly bored. It is not a stomach boredom. You could also say that boredom can never be true because it is just not discontentment: it is discontentment plus a want.
Now, what is the nature of loneliness? Loneliness is when you feel that you are not enough. You need someone other than yourself. As you know, you could feel loneliness even when you are with someone. But basically you feel that you are not enough. You want the other to fill up your self. Is there true loneliness , a stomach loneliness?
So, boredom and loneliness are different. There will be some who would say that you are lonely when you are bored with yourself. I would beg to disagree. There is a "not enough" part in loneliness. You are not enough. And you need someone. Boredom is when you have had enough of something and you need more of something else. As you can see, this is not too subtle or anything.
So, how was your day? Were you bored or lonely today or are you a fool who thinks that you are living to make other people happy?
I agree. I have often noticed this difference. I often feel alone, but seldom feel bored. I remember hearing somewhere, "Being lonely has two meanings.One is loneliness which means you are weak and you need others to support. The other is alone-ness which means you are strong enough to stand alone"
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